I am a mother. My first priority is to raise my children to be good, conscientious little people who grow up to be compassionate passionate empathic adults, to make sure they have a good basic grounding to build on.
My first priority is not to compete with you so that I can have bragging rights to whose parenting method is the best.
My first priority is not to consistently try and outdo you whenever you feel slighted because my kid has joined some society or outside sport or the library.
My first priority is not to dress my kids in designer brands because you deem everything else cheap rubbish.
My first priority is not to be that mom who always manages to embarrass her child because she's competing fiercely for title of Mom of the Year yet manages to neglect the tiniest need of said child.